As someone who loathed gym class, I can relate to this. For me, all the sportsings places were where the guys who bullied me hung out. No thanks.
Fast forward to age 40, after putting down the bottle, I picked up beach volleyball to spend more quality time with my wife, who's played her whole life. After ten years, I'm okay at it. I never could have imagined liking a team sport, though. We've recently tried our mutually untrained hands at pickleball. (More on that another time.)
Having a PIC was everything to my success. It was still hard. I still felt like John Travolta in Grease when he tries all the sports, but it helped me get over the hump of sucking really bad at playing. And I did suck very much.
Still, I'm sympathetic to these spaces being "activating" to someone like me. Hard to turn off that subroutine.
There is no bravery without fear. And there are rewards to be known from doing hard things, especially those that build community.
This will not be an easy challenge to take on. Not impossible, though.
This is a great share, Damon—thanks for giving all these details! The PIC thing is the THING, right? I'm glad you found your way into accepting this challenge (and an opportunity to spend time with your wife). I imagine this is a helpful share for "NHFS."
Totally. I have the good fortune of a wife that I enjoy spending time with, even playing sports together. Many married couples can't handle playing together without getting into a battle.
I contend that softball is not fun to play! More fun to watch.
I'm sure "Not Hot For Softball" appreciates hearing that!
As someone who loathed gym class, I can relate to this. For me, all the sportsings places were where the guys who bullied me hung out. No thanks.
Fast forward to age 40, after putting down the bottle, I picked up beach volleyball to spend more quality time with my wife, who's played her whole life. After ten years, I'm okay at it. I never could have imagined liking a team sport, though. We've recently tried our mutually untrained hands at pickleball. (More on that another time.)
Having a PIC was everything to my success. It was still hard. I still felt like John Travolta in Grease when he tries all the sports, but it helped me get over the hump of sucking really bad at playing. And I did suck very much.
Still, I'm sympathetic to these spaces being "activating" to someone like me. Hard to turn off that subroutine.
There is no bravery without fear. And there are rewards to be known from doing hard things, especially those that build community.
This will not be an easy challenge to take on. Not impossible, though.
This is a great share, Damon—thanks for giving all these details! The PIC thing is the THING, right? I'm glad you found your way into accepting this challenge (and an opportunity to spend time with your wife). I imagine this is a helpful share for "NHFS."
Totally. I have the good fortune of a wife that I enjoy spending time with, even playing sports together. Many married couples can't handle playing together without getting into a battle.
This was so so great! But I’ve seen those old Russians at the bathhouse - ya got nothing to worry about 🙂
I'll accept that!